The complexity's of marriage...

I've come to the conclusion that staying happily married, is a lot of work. You cannot just roll along, doing whatever you please. You cannot ignore the other person's wants and needs. There has to be an understanding, and give and take. If you know something makes the other crazy.....stop doing it! If you know a small thing that really makes the other smile....DO it! Then there are the ISSUES. Some issues have to be let go. The small things that may annoy a little, but are not That important. Let them go! Like the cap on the toothpaste. Like socks on the floor. Let um go! Save your angst for the real things, like nasty remarks, cheating, and other intolerable behavior. Talk calmly about the little things, laugh at them and let them go. Loudly state that there is a no tolerance policy of the big ugly things and mean it. If you happen to find a decent partner...cherish that relationship. Make that person feel like they are important in your life. Notice when they are sad, or worried or scared. Build them up, dont tear them down. Give them room to be their real selves...If God forbid, you are with someone that hurts you, cheats on you, and will not stop, then ask yourself, Is this what you want for the rest of your life? Can you hold on until they decide to become a human being?

Mother Nature and PMS

I swear she had it last night. We were happily sleeping, when she decided to let off some steam. Lightening lit up the sky, and echoing thunder boomed soon after. Then rain poured down like she was bawling her eyes out. Little did she know, that while she was spewing her anger, we were enjoying every moment. We really needed the lightening to clear the junk out of the air. IE pollen etc...We needed the rain to soften the ground, and feed the thirsty plants we have growing in our gardens...While she ranted and raved, we thanked her for letting us have it....I love Mother Nature, with all her glorious mood swings, I love the soft days of spring when all is new and smells so sweet. That smell that makes a girl fall in love again..I love the heat of summer when you sit under a fan with a cold drink in your hand, and think about life...I love her fall with the crisp sunny days and falling leaves...When work had slowed and you have time to breathe...I even love her winter. The warm fire, Christmas, and baked goods smelling wonderful in your kitchen. Yes, she can be a bawdy gal, or a soft lovely lady, but shes never boring......Late ta...

Hello again

I haven't posted here for a bit. The reason is that I have been so busy...Being outside and working hard to make the yard look nice is a big job. I do have a young man to help once in awhile with the weed eating, but most of the work is done by myself. Irv does some mowing in the outer regions. Now, I'm having a man come and cut down a big annoying jack pine, and trim up some others. He will also grind out the stumps my dear hubby left behind when he took out some trees, This makes me very happy as my yard is an extension of who I am... I'm a nester and this stuff matters to me..We got a nice amount of rain on the gardens yesterday. Boy does that make the veges and flowers happy...They just surge up after a good rain. Hand watering just doesn't cut it. I think there are things in rain that we don't have in our ground water. I know, I know, that comes from the rain, but I believe it is filtered out....I have green beans and onions peeking their heads out of the soil..So far the tomatos and peppers look healthy too....I still have to plant turnips and stuff that Irv likes....
So off to town for some things I need and to donate some things I dont need....Lateta......

Snakes and I

We don't belong in the same Universe, snakes and I. I cannot abide them, especially huge ones like I saw yesterday laying in my lawn. They paralyze me, literally! An incident as a small child, has left me with this phobia, and while it has gotten better as I matured, it still is a handicap. Yesterdays snake was huge! 4 ft easy and right where I play and work everyday. NO! Not in the field close by, or hidden by wood piles or other things. No!!!! laying right in my full view. Its like he was saying na na na na na na....Alas, my dear manly husband disposed of this bad snake for me, and I am eternally grateful for that but......Where are the rest of them? When will another one or two or more venture into my playground to frighten the bejesus out of me? Why now after all these years when we are mowing the entire area, do they decide to show their forked tongues? They have a lot of fields to hunt in. They need to leave me alone! Maybe Ill buy a falcon!!!!Ya think?

Mothers day

Frankly speaking, I think every day should be mothers day. For those moms that put there heart in raising the kids, and love them more then themselves. Now This can include fathers too, IF they give themselves to the job of bringing up the young ones into adulthood. Its a total full time job, and can really give back, if done the right way. Human beings are complex and making sure they turn out okay, is not easy. I've seen, and shared the happiness, while watching them grow into mature adults. There may have been some bumps along the way, but for the most part, it is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world. Heres to Moms all over the world, for a job well done. Now go fill that hole in your heart and house, when the kids leave home, with stuff all your own. They will be back....late ta

Whys and wherefors...

Why do they glue the toilet paper flap down? I sat for 5 minutes, trying to get it apart. The floor was being littered with tiny bits of paper, while I ripped and tore. I didnt want to be in there anymore. I had other things to do then sit and tear. My behind was getting numb, and my blood pressure was going up. By the time I got it apart, most of the roll was on the floor. Oh sure! Now I had another job to do. Thanks a lot!
Why do they put those paper flaps on fake flowers? You cant just put them in a vase...noooo, first you have to find and remove all those tiny paper strips.If you forget one, someone will eventually notice it and say...Oh, those are fake flowers...

Why is it that all containers now have senior proof caps? This stuff should get easier not harder as we age. You need one of those rubber things to help get the caps off. Its like they worry about us being childlike and opening something we shouldnt. Thanks a lot!
Why is it that while we are getting shorter all the time, they are putting the products up higher and higher? I refuse to use a reach helper! Id rather go without the item. See? they just missed a sale. Thanks alot!
Why is it that helpings of food get larger and larger, while we eat less and less? We dont all have dogs to take it home to. The garbage man must eat very well these days, if he has a notion to look. Thanks alot!
Why is it that by the time you retire, and have extra cash to do fun things with, your too damned tired to do them? Thanks alot! Late ta....

What the?

It seems that the more I practice, and the more I learn, the worse I get...Golf is not an easy sport but sheesh! My long game is ok but my short game is a disaster. If i could get in closer to the pin on my fairway shots, putting would be much easier...maybe...I did make par on one hole yesterday. Hit the green in one and in two putts, was in the hole..That felt real good..
The weather was great though, and we werent pushed, so the day was good all in all...I made the mistake of having two,[ count them, two] glasses of choc milk at dinner, and so of course couldnt sleep last night, until after midnight. I'm very sleepy this am and should have tried to sleep in. Oh well, maybe better tonight...I have to go to the store and mow later when it warms up abit...Did you notice? No humor in here? Yah, I'm tired...late ta