The complexity's of marriage...

I've come to the conclusion that staying happily married, is a lot of work. You cannot just roll along, doing whatever you please. You cannot ignore the other person's wants and needs. There has to be an understanding, and give and take. If you know something makes the other crazy.....stop doing it! If you know a small thing that really makes the other smile....DO it! Then there are the ISSUES. Some issues have to be let go. The small things that may annoy a little, but are not That important. Let them go! Like the cap on the toothpaste. Like socks on the floor. Let um go! Save your angst for the real things, like nasty remarks, cheating, and other intolerable behavior. Talk calmly about the little things, laugh at them and let them go. Loudly state that there is a no tolerance policy of the big ugly things and mean it. If you happen to find a decent partner...cherish that relationship. Make that person feel like they are important in your life. Notice when they are sad, or worried or scared. Build them up, dont tear them down. Give them room to be their real selves...If God forbid, you are with someone that hurts you, cheats on you, and will not stop, then ask yourself, Is this what you want for the rest of your life? Can you hold on until they decide to become a human being?